In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about love.
- an intense feeling of deep affection.
- a person or thing that one loves.
Now I’m no love expert and I don’t believe that anyone really is. Love is a universal concept that is interpreted in many ways. Sure there is a “definition” like the Google one above but that is only the general thoughts surrounding love.
Love is different for everyone. As we grow from children into adults our personal definitions for love evolve which is a good thing. But the bad part is that those evolving definitions vary from person to person. For some a love for a spouse is very similar to the love you have for a parent. Or the love for a friend is the same as you would have for a sibling. Or maybe you care for a friend like you do for a pet or vice versa.
Hell there are even different levels of love; real love, love for someone, luv, pure love, puppy love, and so on. The definition of love seems to have shifted in importance and even quality. If I ask my daughters (a teenager and preteen) why they tell someone other than their family that they “love” them, I get the answer “Because I really like them”. So then I say, “Why don’t you just say, ‘I really like you’?” It’s funny but sometimes a little scary to think how often the word is thrown around. ESPECIALLY, with all these various meanings floating in the air. Using such a powerful word can be empowering to some and yet detrimental to others. Some over use it, diluting its meaning, while others under use it leaving some with no concept of what it feels like to be loved.
So what’s the reason for my vent on the topic of love?
It’s to remind everyone that love is powerful so be mindful how you use it and how you show it, or not show it, in some cases.
“Love recognizes no barriers. Love Jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou.
I’ve had (and currently have) the honor to love and be loved. It has been wonderful and sometimes very hard. I’ve been taught by different people, different ways to love and different ways of receiving love. Love saved my life! There was a time in my life where I did lose sight of my future. Where I wanted to leave my earthly troubles behind to be with my mom but the love of my family and friends brought me through. They use their power to push me to love myself more than I had ever done before and truly believe that God loved me and would also be there to help me. Without them I can honest say I would not be here.
So PLEASE remember that love can save lives. Love pushes us to be better than we were yesterday and stronger than we were a minute ago. Use your power this Valentine’s day, and for the rest of the year, to show how you care for another and how you want others to care for you. Your love is what makes you who you are so if you don’t know it, learn it; if you’re scared to try it, risk it; if you’re unsure of it, trust it. It only takes one good time for you to love and be loved to change your life.