I was just talking to my boss about how hard it is to raise girls today. I’m sure my mother and grandmother probably thought the same thing but really…there are so many obstacles for them to overcome. They have these reality shows, the digital “fakes” on FB, the gram, snap chat and all those other social media channels. They even have to deal with other girls, a.k.a. “the mean girls”, at their school who themselves are struggling with their own identity but who prey on others to make themselves feel better.
If we could only can get them to understand what reality truly is when it come to their bodies, their hair, and their own thoughts, maybe life’s torments would go a little easier on them. But how do we do that? Me and him talked for an hour throwing out different solutions. Maybe we could tell them it’s ok to stand for yourself and your thoughts. Maybe we can tell them that those reality stars they are watching are actually struggling with their own issues too — they aren’t as perfect as they look. Maybe we can tell them that no matter what, they are beautiful as they are.
Those are all great ideas but I think we forgot one thing; talking is not as strong as walking. We, and especially myself as a women, need to show them these facts. You can’t tell a horse to go to water, you must lead them.
I don’t know how many people have seen this amazing video but it reminded me that sometimes the easiest way for our kids to learn is through watching us — following our own actions.
I’ve decided to put less effort in wearing makeup or straighten my hair not because I’m lazy but to show my daughters that we all should work with the beauty we have. I’m putting more effort toward talking to them about things that make them special and showing them how their gifts could transpire into some amazing things.
This is only the beginning and I want to thank this woman for showing the world that self-love is what makes us amazing. She inspired me to love me more so that my world — my daughters — can learn to do the same for themselves.
I challenge you all to love you for who you are, inside and out, and watch how receptive the world is to you. It may feel risky but it’s truly what the world needs to see…the real you!